Better make sure she's clean. If so, go for it and see where it goes. If he's still freaked by it, send her my way as I have absolutely zero hang-ups with these sorts of things
My friend goes to church. Not psycho tries to convert me person but someone who church and church outings is a big part of his life. He's 30, not a bad looking guy but single currently.
Few weeks ago I see him in the street with a girl. SMOKING freaking hot. Russian, but the kind who looks asian from the southeast i think? Later he tells me he met her at church, seeing her a while, things are going great.
This weekend that past he calls me up and tells me he is thinking of dumping her. Why i ask?
Night before he finally nailed her. She tells him she hadn't had slept with a man in a long time, NOT SINCE SHE HAD DONE PORN WHEN SHE LIVED IN HER COUNTRY. He was a bit taken aback, she told him it was just because she was making bad choices at that time DUE TO HER HEROIN HABIT. Also that she gave some money back to her family.
She said later on her father's job that took him back and forth to the US moved him to the US so she came over, and while she has been living with him he is very strict, made her join the church, and she has been clean since then (more than a year).
He is sticking in there albeit she is no longer his dream girl and he's more cautious. Your thoughts?
He's 30 and can't expect single women to not have any baggage, imo.
She seems like she's in a better environment so it could work out for her. He should stick it out a little more. Ask her to get to a clinic and get tested.
I'd break up with her. Only way I'd think twice would be if she told me a year into the relationship and I had strong feeling for her, but then I'd probably be so pissed she kept it secret that I'd dump her anyway.
He told you all of this ? He must really like you I agree he should make sure she is clean. Other then that I guess you could give her a chance. I would be like him "cautious"
it wouldn't scare me off but I'm a man whore like that.
I'd probably be more likely to scare her off b/c I'd want to try do all kinds of freak nasty stuff that I might be worried about asking a civilian to do.
as for the make sure she's clean stuff, well, you should do that with every girl b/c you never know.
a good rule of thumb is if she will do or let you do something to her, she has done it with somebody else already.
plus, a girl that has only been with one or two dudes could still have an STD regardless.
yeah stay away. I work with a lot of heroin addicts. Once a junkie always a junkie. Given the opportunity they will always relapse. People formerly addicted to heroin usually wind up in prison or dead. It's just a matter of time. Very very very few actually beat it.
Heroin users are also the world's best liars. I hear so many stories about people whose "formerly addicted" friends or family members suddenly disappear out of the blue, and they turn up dead, ODed, or in some random jail. Heroin users are so good at keeping their using secret.
yeah stay away. I work with a lot of heroin addicts. Once a junkie always a junkie. Given the opportunity they will always relapse. People formerly addicted to heroin usually wind up in prison or dead. It's just a matter of time. Very very very few actually beat it.
Heroin users are also the world's best liars. I hear so many stories about people whose "formerly addicted" friends or family members suddenly disappear out of the blue, and they turn up dead, ODed, or in some random jail. Heroin users are so good at keeping their using secret.
This is completely true. Just found out my brother, who completed a rehab program a few months ago and was supposedly working full-time and thinking about going back to school is in jail. He never had a job at all, was burglarizing people's houses for months and finally got caught. We went to clean out his house and it was a fcking heroine den, needles and shit everywhere. His life is totally ruined at the age of 21. Complete shame
I will never trust anybody who had or has drug issues. They are too good at lying.
I'd like to think female interaction is more than an ascent to "nailing her."
I've known worse... porn stars, maybe not. lol.
Point being, it wouldn't scare me off, but I'd definitely take a step back. I'm very cautious, though. Even a girl lying to me makes me take a huge step back.
I definitely think that they should go, as a couple, and get STD tested. lol.
Edit: @ dude above me. I've had drug issues. Lying and drugs aren't the same thing. Mind you, I've never shot up, but I believe self is above all drugs. In fact, the best reason to quit drugs is it's such a ****ing hassle to get them all of the time. The majority of people are liars... and people with personality disorders do drugs, too. Don't say just because someone does drugs that they are morally different. Drugs should be a personal thing (meaning they shouldn't bleed over into anything else.) Pawning your shit is pretty pathetic, but it's your shit. Stealing and lying are totally different.
I wouldn't start up with a girl I knew had that kind of history but I wouldn't dump a girl I had been dating a month+ after she told me. I would insist on an STD test (really you should get one anyway). And I'd read up on the telltale signs of drug abuse to know what to look out for.
You need to be a better friend....he's coming to you for affirmation, because he knows what he has to do. Are you going to just stand there and let him fall back in love with her? It's going to happen eventually, and then what? Is that going to be the mother of his kids? **** no, then why stay in a relationship with her? Your friend seems like a good dude, he'll find someone else soon enough.
This one's tapped in the head, because pretty much any girl willing to **** for money has pretty much killed the override switch in their brain...couple that with the daddy issues and addictive personality, and you have a recipe for disaster.
Tell him to check our christianmingle.com. That way he can find someone who isn't lying about being into something that's such a big part of his life.
Re: Would this scare you off?
I agree he should make sure she is clean. Other then that I guess you could give her a chance. I would be like him "cautious"
