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Originally Posted by adamcz
RMWG, if your view is that the person who earns more is worth more, you shouldn't get married. You need to view someone as your 100% equal in order to have a healthy relationship. Otherwise, we're talking about someone to run errands for you, and for you to boss around. That's called a servant, and if you're rich, you can hire one any time.
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You have me a bit mistaken, I didn't say that anyone is "worth more." I pointed out the fact that there is no way that Juanita Jordan was going to make 168 mil. So what she in fact sacrificed nothing by not working in the private sector, and any discussion about what she could have made working in the private sector is in fact a negative in an argument for her. So when you say,
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"In most marriages (at least) one person has to sacrafice their career to let the other one live out theirs. It's rare that the best jobs for each partner exist in the same city, and can be lived out to the very fullest without the other person stepping back into a supporting role. How much did MJ help out around the house with raising the kids and all that? Is that stuff not important? Shouldn't MJ have sacrificed his career a little bit so that he could be around the house more often to do some of the laundry and help teach the kids to read?"
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I'm going to point out that she lost absolutely nothing financially. Just the opposite, in fact.
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Originally Posted by adamcz
If she was nothing more than a nanny and personal assistant to him all these years, then he's dumb for marrying her in the first place and not catching on sooner. If on the other hand, she provided emotional support, had equal say in all the important decisions, and took a step back so that he could become the greatest player ever, that money is as much hers as his.
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The reality is, the way he slept around, she probably was, to him, a nanny, without even the "personal assistant" part. He was completely faithless and certainly didn't act like a man in love. He probably only married her to begin with because he got her pregnant and wanted to avoid a major scandal. This was never that romantic. And what on earth did she have to do with his basketball career? Really, that doesn't even make sense. He was going to be great no matter what. Heck, he already was. What was she going to do, tell him he couldn't play in Game 6 vs. Phoenix because she had to go to nursing school? Come on, man. He was dumb for not getting a pre-nup. Oh well, too bad, his problem.
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Originally Posted by adamcz
That's how the law looks at marriage, and how you should too. It's a life-long commitment, not a 3-year business deal.
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I look at marriage as being whatever the two people involved in it define it as, and have no need for the law's definitions. "The law" prohibits same-sex marriage, something that I don't stand against, and I most certainly do not see why this woman should get 168 million dollars. Not to mention the enormous alimony payments he'll be stuck with. Sorry, but that doesn't make any sense to me. I don't see why a millionaire needs to be an even bigger millionaire, just because she married so-and-so. That just doesn't make any sense, never has, and never will. Are you telling me that it won't be right if she can't afford a 12th Lamborghini? Please...